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try using some of the anal lube that has lidocane, let her know that it is supposed to help eleviate the pain, I have a hard time doing anal if the man is HUGE! but I would say that if you can get her to try it with the special anal lube you are in like flint! however you also have to make sure that it was just that the guy tried to "RAM" it in, there may have been more to it maybe something that was tramatic for her, Talk to her and then get the lube if she is willing, I dunno if it works as claimed but just take it slow and easy!

Sit your girl down for a conversation. Don't talk to her about it before, during or after sex since this will seem like you're trying to manipulate her or you're complaining (however inadvertant this might be, just avoid it). A good time would be when you're both relaxed. Preferably when you're sharing an emotional connection, as well. Second, make sure to complement her, letting her know you love being with her and that this is just a suggestion. Then, explain that the reason her first anal experience hurt so much is probably because the guy didn't go slow enough and/or used too big an item, too soon. Explain the right way to introduce anal play (if you're not sure about the steps, read "Super Hot Sex" by Tracy Cox, pg. 108 for tips (no pun intended) or look them up on the Internet). Next, let her know the reasons why you enjoy anal, but refrain from making her feel bad if she decides not to try it or using terms of manipulation. Just use nonemotional phrases (instead of "it gives me a really big climax" say "I enjoy the sensation of..."). Also, let her know whatever her decision, you'll still respect her and want to be with her. Tell her you don't want her to continue to engage in anal if it makes her uncomfortable, but let her know you are asking her to try it just one time. And if she has any questions, that you'll be happy to answer them. Or if she has any suggestions, let her know you're willing to consider them, as well.