Exploring the Female Erogenous Zones

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Exploring the Female Erogenous Zones

Written by Sally Rangeway

Saturday, 30 June 2007

First of all, here’s what a woman’s erogenous zones are not. They are not a series of buttons to be pushed and knobs to be twisted in the right order.

Those are nipples, not the controls of a jet fighter, buddy.

So slow down. Don’t be in such a hurry.

Remember that song about the “slow hands, the easy touch?” Ever met a woman that doesn’t know the words? That, fella, is what they call a clue.

Most women don’t like to be grabbed anywhere, especially when they aren’t expecting it. So consider the quality of your touch as you explore a woman’s erogenous zones. You aren’t playing tic-tac-toe.

Start with a light touch, and make it gentle. Don’t tickle. Don’t squeeze. Especially, don’t pinch – not yet.

Once you’ve made contact with your fingers, follow up with your mouth. First, a breath kiss, a soft exhalation on her skin, recommended by the Kama Sutra.

Next, use your lips for gentle kisses. Let the kisses wander a bit, perhaps with a little of sucking and nibbling here and there. But gently.

Remember that the largest, and one of the most sensitive human organs is our envelope of skin. Treat every inch of a woman’s body with passionate attention and you can’t go wrong.

Okay, let’s approach the female body–considered a sacred area in more than one religion over the years, by the way–and locate the most erotic zones.

Her Hands

Let’s not start at the top. The first part of herself a woman is likely to trust you with is her hand. Not to worry, the hand is richly endowed with erotic potential. In fact, the hand has more nerve endings than the mouth, so get busy.

Lift her hand for a kiss on the back of her hand. Start with a breath kiss; let her feel you coming.

Turn her hand over for a breath kiss on the palm. Follow up with tiny kisses on the tip of each finger. Don’t forget the other hand. Alternate your attention from one to the other

Her Head, Neck and Face

From the hands, it can be an easy progression to the neck. It’s full of nerve endings, besides being the center of a lot of stress. Kiss the sides of her neck from the shoulder up to the ear, until you feel her begin to relax and accept your kisses. A brief shoulder massage may be in order if she seems tense.

The ears are a noted erogenous zone, but don’t mistake them for other orifices. Soft nibbles along the outside rim, and gentle sucking on the earlobe will excite her. Sticking your tongue far enough up her ear to taste wax will not. News flash, guys … your tongue is not a penis. Thrusting it hard in and out of a woman’s ear canal—or elsewhere, see below—is just not that effective as a stimulant.

Kiss her temples, kiss her eyelids, kiss the tip of her nose, but gently. Approach her mouth gently as well, with soft lips, then build the intensity. The mouth is one of the top erogenous zones, so show her how well you can treat the rest of her by developing a great kissing technique.

Don’t be too eager to get your tongue in her mouth. Many women consider a French kiss to be more intimate than intercourse. Wait to be invited in.

Her Breasts

If you have an overwhelming need to squeeze, knead and pummel something, take up bread-making. A woman’s breasts are incredibly sensitive and easy to bruise. Treat them gently and with respect. Cup them in your hands and nuzzle into the cleavage, absorbing their aroma, rich in pheromones.

Approach the nipples by a circuitous route, then tease them with tongue or fingers until they get hard. Then you can begin to suck gently on them. If she responds with pleasure, continue.

Be sure to give equal attention to both breasts. Keep your fingers busy on one nipple while your mouth works on the other.

Some women like their nipples sucked strongly during sex, but be aware if she begins to pull away or pushes your mouth away. The sucking can become painful at different stages of arousal.

Down Below

Working your way south from the breasts, don’t overlook the sensitive navel and abdomen area. For many women, gentle stoking of the area between the bellybutton and the pubic area is a terrifically erotic experience, creating all kinds of tingly feelings in the genitals.

If you really want to please a woman, whether with your fingers, your mouth, your cock or even a %dildo%, study up on your female anatomy. The clitoris, that little bump at the very top of a woman's vagina, can be so large it resembles the head of a man’s penis, and, even if it’s only a bump, it’s still in fact very similar to the head of a man's cock. Now, guys, you don't want the head of your member tweaked like a guitar string right off, do you?

You have to work up to serious clitoral stimulation. Follow your partner’s lead, as you explore the clitoris, the lips of the vagina, the perineum (the territory between the vagina and the anus) and the anus itself. Use some lubricant, either from a bottle or your own saliva, to keep the area from getting dry and scratchy.

Place her own hand under yours on her clitoris and let her show you the pressure and speed of stimulation she prefers. The real secret of pleasuring a woman is to not just do what you think works. Instead, pay attention to what works for her.

Sally Rangeway
		About the author:
		Sally Rangeway is a professional writer who likes to cross boundaries. During her 25 plus years as a writer, she’s tackled reviewing everything from golf clubs to modern dance, interviewed politicos and priests, and written for numerous lifestyle and city magazines. Her current passion is travel writing, with a special interest in places all over the world where you can go to be pampered. She has published several travel guides with several more in the works. Sally is a Scorpio and doesn’t think there’s anything two–or more–people can do in bed that could possibly be wrong or sinful as long as all involved are consenting adults. She’s currently single, but accepting interesting proposals from qualified applicants.

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