Ladies Lingerie (Not Always so Ladylike)

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Ladies Lingerie (Not Always so Ladylike)

Written by Nikki Daly

Tuesday, 24 June 2008

A Buyer’s Guide for Her

Until the 1960s, women’s undies served three purposes: modesty, hygiene and altering the female form. Then, while some women burned their bras, others embraced them – and a whole lot more – as lingerie makers turned these former instruments of torture into glamorous accessories. We suddenly had new reasons to buy their wares.
The best reason among them is simply the way flirty lingerie makes you feel. A soft, satiny bra and panty set, a lace-trimmed slip, a garter belt and stockings underneath that conservative, buttoned down business suit can make a powerful difference in the way you feel about yourself and the way you interact with others.

The soft, richness of the fabric feels good against your skin, and the secret of it all puts a spring in your step. Dressing for success was never easier.

Later, if you’re undressing for success, expect to feel as good then as you did all day. Imagine your partner’s anticipation in stripping off the clothes you let everyone else see and getting down to those meant for his eyes only.

That brings us to another good reason to invest in sexy lingerie – his pleasure. It doesn’t matter to a man that you’re a bit too small here, a bit too big there. Hiding behind a bathrobe or under cover of darkness isn’t the answer. Presenting your most attractive self is. That kind of confidence is good for you, good for him, and good for your relationship.

A Buyer’s Guide for Him

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You buy what you like. Then you wonder why she’s not thrilled when you give her a pair of crotchless panties for your anniversary.

So here’s where you went wrong. Your gift-giving strategy may be sending her this message: “I’m a selfish pig who thinks only of himself.” Or “I might have married you, but I wish you were someone else.”

You actually started off on the right track. Every woman appreciates a gift of fine lingerie from someone she loves. But, if she doesn’t like the style or color or fit, she won’t wear it. So the key is to find out what she likes.

Rifle through her underwear. Does she wear baby doll pajamas, corsets that lace (and unlace), garter belts? Are they made of cotton, silk or leather? Adorned with lace, feathers or fur? What she wears tells you a great deal about what she will wear, down to her sizes.

Pay attention to the styles she likes and her self esteem. Everyone has a body part or two they’d rather not emphasize. If she’s heavy breasted, she may be uncomfortable in the short, sheer nightshirt you’d love to see her in. She might prefer a baby doll gown with underwire support. On the other hand, if long legs are her best feature, that nightshirt with matching g-string might be just the thing.

Then, think about the message your gift sends. If you want to say “I love you,” something see-through isn’t likely to send that message. However, if she’s just knocked your socks off with that thing she did in bed the other night, something naughty may well be in order. Go ahead and buy those crotchless panties. Sometimes, timing is everything.

Nikki Daly
		About the author:
		Nikki Daly is a former newspaper reporter and magazine editor with more than 40 local, state and national awards for her articles and columns. A bit of a moving target, she began her career as a sports reporter, moved on to news and was editor of her hometown’s Charleston Magazine by the time she was 27. She loves travel and has written chapters on her favorite places for various guidebooks. Favorite trips have included Kenya, Africa, France, Ireland and Scotland. Her freelancing leaves her footloose and fancy free, which is just the way she likes it. Nikki has been working on several marketing projects for clients recently and as a translator/editor. Her latest translation was a French novel about the Belgian Congo. Nikki is single and dating.

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