Anal Sex: Getting It Done With Some Convincing

9/23/2009

Men and women never seem to understand why the other thinks what they do, that is often the case when the topic of anal sex is brought up. Often followed by “I don’t think so” or “no way,” many people have got to wonder how they’ll ever get to experience this taboo way of intercourse.

When it comes to being a woman, they are often afraid to even try it because of what their friends may have told them. “Ew, it hurts, don’t even bother.” Needless to say, anal sex can be incredibly exciting, erotic, and pleasurable if just given the chance. NEVER go straight to penetrating the anus with a penis without first using a good deal of lubrication and preparation, such as a little foreplay with the tongue or finger to get her ready, physically and mentally. Without preparation, anal sex can be very painful, injury can occur, and you can kiss any future anal experiences goodbye.

Introducing anal stimulation one step at a time over a few sexual sessions is the best way to go. If you start with rubbing, touching and/or kissing the anus and gradually introducing penetration (with lubrication!!!) anal sex should work its way into your sex life without too much hassle. Start with the tip of one finger, then maybe the entire (lubricated) finger. Who knows, maybe soon after your partner will let you use an anal toy of some sort or maybe even the penis.

Here are some ideas for introducing anal sex:

When performing oral sex on your partner, play with their butt cheeks, caress them, lick them and slowly make your way to the area near her anus, eventually leading up to the anus itself. You can also use fingers to add a certain thrill while licking your partner. There is such an added sensitivity from action around the anus; it is almost guaranteed to get your partner to have maximum pleasure from oral sex. Always remember though, if fingers or toys are inserted into the rectum, they should NOT be put back into the vagina until they are cleaned very well. This can cause serious sickness.

Once you have figured out whether your partner is open or not to the idea of a little action around the anus, you can determine whether or not insertion/penetration is the next step. Apply some pressure with your finger to the anus, if received with moans of pleasure (or at least not with opposition), you can lubricate your finger (spit works fine for this method) and put the tip of your finger inside. The best position to try this in is cowgirl or reverse cowgirl when the girl is on top facing towards or away from you. This allows for the easiest access to her butt.

It is very important for a woman to receive this gradual “butt-play” because it allows her to become comfortable with herself from this typically taboo act. It gets her used to the heightened state of arousal and pleasure she will get from your touch around her anus. AND, most importantly, if she really likes it, she will want to have it done more often. Anal play has a good chance of turning into having anal sex.

Pay attention to your partner’s reactions. If there is any negative response to anything being done to and near the anus, stop immediately, you do not want your efforts to turn futile. If they feel like they are being forced into something, the mood could quickly change and backdoor play could be out of the question for good!

And if the response is one of sheer pleasure and enjoyment, then by all means, lubricate the penis and go to town. Work it in slowly and make sure it is very well lubricated. The anus, much unlike a vagina, does not make its own lubricant. If there is to be penetration, now is the time to lube up and enjoy your newfound sex life!